In traditional life coaching, there is a great emphasis on self-improvement, sometimes it seems at any cost.  And I truly believe that we are at our best when we develop, learn and grow, at all ages. But recently I've been having conversations about finding balance in the quest for change. Because if the root of that desire for improvement is self-hatred, or a need to annihilate huge parts of who we are, then that doesn't feel like improvement at all. [...]