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How to Become More Securely Attached: Your Questions Answered
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How to Become More Securely Attached: Your Questions Answered

Attachment theory

How to Become More Securely Attached: Your Questions Answered

This post rounds off my series all about attachment theory, the different attachment styles and how to become more securely attached. If you’ve missed any of it, you can start here. In this blog, I’ve brought it all together. I’ve answered some of the questions I’m asked most often about attachment styles and how to become more securely attached, and set out how I can help if you’d like some support along the way. Your Questions About Attachment, [...]

Emma Byers2026-10-08T21:27:35+00:008 October 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, becoming securely attached, disorganised attachment, healing anxious attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, overcome anxious attachment, secure attachment|Comments Off

6 Simple Steps to Start Healing Disorganised Attachment
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6 Simple Steps to Start Healing Disorganised Attachment

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6 Simple Steps to Start Healing Disorganised Attachment

This is the fifth blog in my series all about attachment theory and the different attachment styles. If you want to see what else we’ve covered so far, start here. Sound Familiar? You meet someone new and it feels amazing. You’ve never felt connection like this and you’re already wondering if this could be “the one”. You bombard the other person with love and soon they’re onboard, making plans and meeting your affections. But suddenly it feels [...]

Emma Byers2026-09-23T15:10:14+00:0023 September 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, anxious-dominant style, attachment styles, attachment theory, healing anxious attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, overcome anxious attachment, secure attachment|Comments Off

6 Practical Ways to Begin to Overcome Anxious Attachment
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6 Practical Ways to Begin to Overcome Anxious Attachment

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6 Practical Ways to Begin to Overcome Anxious Attachment

This is the fourth blog in my series on attachment theory and the different attachment styles. Missed the rest? Start here. Someone goes quiet on a text for a few hours, and your mind races to the worst-case scenario – they're no longer interested, they've met someone else, they're never coming back, they don't value you... You replay conversations, looking for when things shifted. You check your phone. You write and rewrite your message, send it, then another, then a [...]

Emma Byers2026-09-09T20:18:34+00:009 September 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, anxious-dominant style, attachment styles, attachment theory, healing anxious attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, overcome anxious attachment, secure attachment|Comments Off

The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)
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The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

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The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

This is the third blog in a series on attachment theory and the different attachment styles. You can find the others here: Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do 5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment I promised my newsletter readers I'd share more about my own experience of having a predominantly avoidant attachment style, and how I've moved it towards something more secure. Gulp, I'm going to share what I've written to them [...]

Emma Byers2026-08-18T21:00:45+00:0014 August 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment
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5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

Attachment theory

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

This is the second blog in a series on attachment theory and the different attachment styles. You can find the first blog in this series - Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do - here Does any of this sound familiar? Someone gets close – emotionally, not just physically – and something in you steps back. You prefer to be a bit of a lone wolf, keeping everyone at arm's length, not letting anyone in. [...]

Emma Byers2026-07-31T16:28:29+00:0031 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do
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Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

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Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

This is the first blog in a series on attachment theory explained. It covers attachment styles, what they are, how they can impact your relationships and more, and how to move towards a more secure attachment style... Have you ever caught yourself doing something and thought, why am I reacting like this? Or why do I always do that? Maybe it's not just one thing – it's a shape you can trace across your whole history. You get a few months [...]

Emma Byers2026-09-01T19:17:26+00:0017 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, disorganised attachment, fearful-avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series
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Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

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Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

I've created this page to make it easy to find all my blogs on attachment styles and how to move towards secure attachment. I'm fascinated by attachment theory and, for some people I work with, it can be a really useful lens of exploration. Attachment styles mainly form in early childhood, based on how consistently our needs for warmth, love and safety were met. They're not a flaw or a life sentence – they're protective patterns that made brilliant [...]

Emma Byers2026-10-08T22:29:40+00:0016 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, disorganised attachment, fearful-avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

How to Have Difficult Conversations: Practical Tools That Actually Help
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How to Have Difficult Conversations: Practical Tools That Actually Help

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How to Have Difficult Conversations: Practical Tools That Actually Help

This is part two of a two-part series about how to have difficult conversations. In part one, I introduced the Transactional Analysis model of ego states and transactions, and why understanding which state you're operating from can genuinely change how a conversation goes. It's worth a read before diving into this one, though these tools will make sense on their own too. Knowing the theory is one thing. Using it when you're in the middle of a [...]

Emma Byers2026-05-21T10:03:53+00:0020 May 2026|Categories: Difficult Conversations, Healthy boundaries|Tags: difficult conversations, Ego states, Finding your voice, grown up conversations, having difficult conversations, navigating confliect, Speaking up, Transactional Analysis|Comments Off

Having Difficult Conversations: The Ego States and Transactional Analysis
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Having Difficult Conversations: The Ego States and Transactional Analysis

Difficult Conversations, Healthy boundaries

Having Difficult Conversations: The Ego States and Transactional Analysis

Why Difficult Conversations Feel So Hard Most of us have a conversation we've been putting off. Perhaps there's something at work that isn't working; a friendship that's become one-sided, a situation at home that needs to be addressed but we’re ducking. We know we need to say something, but the thought of actually saying it feels too much. Not only our own stress and anxiety, but also the worry about how the other person is going to react. [...]

Emma Byers2026-05-07T15:42:02+00:007 May 2026|Categories: Difficult Conversations, Healthy boundaries|Tags: difficult conversations, Ego states, Finding your voice, grown up conversations, having difficult conversations, navigating confliect, Speaking up, Transactional Analysis|Comments Off

Healthy Boundaries #5: Somatic Boundaries: Teaching Your Body It’s Safe to Say No
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Healthy Boundaries #5: Somatic Boundaries: Teaching Your Body It’s Safe to Say No

Healthy boundaries

Healthy Boundaries #5: Somatic Boundaries: Teaching Your Body It’s Safe to Say No

We're at the final blog in this series on healthy boundaries. We've covered feeling responsible for everyone else, understanding what boundaries actually are, how to set boundaries without the guilt spiral, and maintaining boundaries when everything wants to let them slip. But there's one piece we haven't fully addressed yet. You can know intellectually that boundaries are important. You can have the scripts ready. You can understand why you need them. And still, when it comes to actually holding [...]

Emma Byers2026-04-09T13:20:58+00:009 April 2026|Categories: Healthy boundaries|Tags: boundary setting, empathy, healthy boundaries, holding healthy boundaries, how to hold healthy boundaries, maintaining boundaries, resetting boundaries, sensitivity, tolerable steps, understanding healthy boundaries|Comments Off

How to Become More Securely Attached: Your Questions Answered

6 Simple Steps to Start Healing Disorganised Attachment

6 Practical Ways to Begin to Overcome Anxious Attachment

The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

How to Have Difficult Conversations: Practical Tools That Actually Help

Having Difficult Conversations: The Ego States and Transactional Analysis

Healthy Boundaries #5: Somatic Boundaries: Teaching Your Body It’s Safe to Say No

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