Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? Read this…

Do you tense up when you know someone's upset? Are you always scanning to check if everyone's okay, perhaps running through what you might have said or done wrong? Do you focus so much time on trying to keep the atmosphere happy or harmonious, that you always biting your tongue, and losing sight of what you really think and feel? If you're nodding, you're probably someone who feels responsible for everyone else's wellbeing, happiness, and emotions. Not in a [...]

2026-02-12T13:36:57+00:0012 February 2026|Categories: Healthy boundaries, People pleasing|Tags: , , , , , , |Comments Off on Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? Read this…

Find Your Glimmers: Tiny Moments of Joy and Calm in Difficult Times

If you’re anything like me, you might be finding world pretty sad and scary right now.  There’s an endless cycle of difficult, distressing news, exacerbated of course by a 24 hour news cycle, along with apps and social media pumping out endless fear alerts (my tip - ditch the apps and any app alerts!). And of course, here in the UK we’re in the midst of a very gloomy January.  I can’t tell you the last time I saw [...]

2026-01-29T17:42:35+00:0029 January 2026|Categories: Goal setting, setting intentions|Tags: , , , , , |Comments Off on Find Your Glimmers: Tiny Moments of Joy and Calm in Difficult Times

No More New Year Resolutions – Try Intentions Instead

Here we are again. January. The cold, dark belly of winter. And yet everywhere around us there's this frantic energy demanding we reinvent ourselves, smash goals, and become entirely new people. No wonder so many New Year resolutions crash and burn before the month is out. The Problem with January It’s a drum I beat regularly - January is probably the worst time to launch ourselves into ambitious new regimes. In Chinese Medicine, winter is the season [...]

2026-01-16T10:50:58+00:0013 January 2026|Categories: Goal setting, setting intentions|Tags: , , , , , |Comments Off on No More New Year Resolutions – Try Intentions Instead

A Christmas Survival Guide for Introverts and Anyone Who Finds Xmas Tough

At this time of year, it can be easy to forget that it's not the magazine spread of perfect, happy families for everyone. There's many people dreading this time of year. The introverts who find relentless socialising and "being on" exhausting. Those with "complicated" family dynamics, with love and hate and hurt and a million things left unsaid. The lonely and alone, made to feel like the odd ones out. And of course, there's many for whom this time [...]

2025-12-16T22:17:08+00:0016 December 2025|Categories: Emotional health, Healthy boundaries, Introvert, saying no, Self Care|Tags: , , , , |Comments Off on A Christmas Survival Guide for Introverts and Anyone Who Finds Xmas Tough

The Art of Wintering: Finding Treasure in the Depths

So, here we are again. Winter's back, with its familiar pull to slow down, retreat, and go inward. I used to hate this time of year, but now I've learned that winter isn't something to endure – it's something to embrace; an art to be practiced. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, Winter is the season of ultimate yin – cold, dark, hidden, internal. And for many, it can be a difficult time. The cold, the dark, the winding down of [...]

2025-12-16T22:58:10+00:004 December 2025|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Winter|Tags: , , , |Comments Off on The Art of Wintering: Finding Treasure in the Depths

Going Deep: Why We All Need to Rediscover Deep Work

So last time, I was banging on about the benefits of boredom (read the full blog here). There's a flip side to giving our brains some wandering time – and that's giving it some proper focused, undistracted time too.  Different but similar, in it’s all about taking away those diversions and brain whirls that keep us distracted, unfocused, frazzled, inefficient… This week, I’ve come across the work of Cal Newport and his concept of "deep work". What is [...]

2025-10-30T16:05:34+00:0030 October 2025|Categories: Efficiency, Emotional health|Tags: , , , , , , |Comments Off on Going Deep: Why We All Need to Rediscover Deep Work

Bring on the Boredom! Why Your Brain Needs Some Downtime

When was the last time you were properly bored? Not "waiting for the kettle to boil whilst scrolling your phone" bored, but nothing to do, nothing to distract you, alone with nothing but your own thoughts bored? If you’re anything like me, it’s probably a long time ago.  I’m a chronic multi-tasker and often to attached to my phone, scrolling in spare minutes or with a podcast blasting away (much to Mr B’s irritation at times). The benefits [...]

2025-10-20T17:57:29+00:0016 October 2025|Categories: Emotional health|Tags: , , , |Comments Off on Bring on the Boredom! Why Your Brain Needs Some Downtime

Radical Honesty: The Truth About Telling the Truth

Ok, so last time we were looking at radical self-honesty.  The power of being really honest with ourselves – and even being really honest with others about ourself.  Looking deep within and acknowledging, even sharing, those shady parts - releasing shame, learning acceptance and flourishing. But what do you think about radical honesty with others, at all times? Welcome to the world of Radical Honesty. So what is radical honesty? Radical honesty is just what it sounds [...]

2025-10-02T15:33:50+00:002 October 2025|Categories: Perfectionism|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Radical Honesty: The Truth About Telling the Truth

Radical Self-Honesty: The Courage to Tell Yourself the Truth

Ok, let’s be honest. We lie to ourselves constantly…      “I don’t care what they think” (when you care loads)      “The job’s ok (it’s draining the life out of you)      “It’ll be different next week” (but it wasn’t this week – or the week before that..) Self-lies are a comfort blanket – they help us to feel safe.  And they’re sneaky – they’re “easy”, they’re non-controversial, they can slip under the radar because they [...]

2025-09-19T14:00:39+00:0019 September 2025|Categories: Perfectionism|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Radical Self-Honesty: The Courage to Tell Yourself the Truth

The Art of (Self) Acceptance

Ok, I might be about to put myself out of business here. After all, a lot of my coaching is about working with people to help them shift, change and improve. But the idea of acceptance is one that has become increasingly important to me and, as it’s been cropping up in my coaching space too, I thought I’d share more. I’m passionate about transformation and growth, finding ways to release the stuff that holds us back. But I [...]