Building Healthy Habits That Last: #3 Try Compassion Instead

In a previous blog, I mentioned the biggest stumbling blocks I see for those struggling to put their plans into (consistent) action - going too big, too quickly, and only focusing on the goal; not celebrating the steps to get there.  BTW this is part of a mini series of blogs about building healthy habits that last - you can see the other parts here and here... Another major stumbling block is how many of us feel that the [...]

Building Healthy Habits That Last: #2 Welcoming Change With Feedback Loops

Behaviour change is hard work.  Our systems are wired to thrive on familiarity so are never keen on doing things differently. So how do we bring in new things, and help them to feel normal and routine, so they last without gritted teeth and willpower? Wow, there's so much to help with this (as I've mentioned before and am sure to keep banging on about - I hugely recommend James Clear's Atomic Habits book). But also I'm going to share a [...]

Building Healthy Habits That Last: #1 Cast a Vote

Habit forming is such a hot topic right now, and not least in my coaching space (and dare I say, in my own life too).  We all have such great plans for who we want to be, and what we want to do - but then struggle to make that happen. And the biggest stumbling blocks I see? Going too big, too quickly Only focusing on the goal, and not celebrating the actions oh and the third one is trying [...]

Do I need coaching or counselling?

I’m often asked "do I need coaching or counselling" and so thought I’d share my own take on this here. I’ve often heard it said that counselling or therapy is about the past, and coaching is about the present and the future.   I understand what’s meant by that, but it’s an oversimplification that I believe does a disservice to both coaching and counselling. Or some say that coaching is about setting and achieving goals, whereas counselling is about solving [...]

Is that still true? Changing the narrative

Prefer to listen rather than read?  You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: It's amazing the stories we tell ourselves.  The constant narratives we have about who we are, what we can and can't do, even what has happened to us and what that now means.  Our brains love a good story, and our nervous systems love familiarity and hence these narratives get bedded in.   But what if they're not [...]

2023-06-20T13:53:24+00:0020 June 2023|Categories: Confidence, Self Care, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Is that still true? Changing the narrative

Building a rebel routine that works (even for free spirits who like to go with the flow) – Rebels Part 3

Prefer to listen rather than read?  You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Ok, so we’ve looked at whether you’re a rebel and, if you are, found some simple techniques to motivate yourself without the usual refusal and rejection. And found ways to build helpful habits whilst honouring your need to call the shots. This week’s blog is about how to harness the benefits of a routine, when you’re a [...]

2023-06-14T13:57:15+00:002 June 2023|Categories: Procrastination|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Building a rebel routine that works (even for free spirits who like to go with the flow) – Rebels Part 3

How to create habits that stick when you’re a rebel (and hate doing what you’re told) – Rebels Part 2

Prefer to listen rather than read?  You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Ok, so last week I used some of super useful Gretchen Rubin’s strategies from her Four Tendencies work to help our inner rebel find motivation and work towards goals and objectives without resistance (check out the blog here). But I’ve also got a few tips of my own about how to create habits that stick and design [...]

2023-06-14T13:55:37+00:0026 May 2023|Categories: Procrastination|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on How to create habits that stick when you’re a rebel (and hate doing what you’re told) – Rebels Part 2

Struggling with motivation, productivity or making habits stick? You might be a Rebel, Rebel…[Rebel Part 1]

Prefer to listen rather than read?  You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Are you struggling with motivation, productivity or making habits stick.  Do you keep trying to put a new routine in place or plans into action, only for everything to go out of the window not long after?  You might be a rebel and rebelling against yourself.  You might not see yourself as a rebel but do read [...]

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Is it just me?

I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions.  And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions.  Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

As a rule, I don't do politics here but I wanted to share what I was up to last weekend.  I got on a train at a shockingly early time last Saturday and headed down to the Extinction Rebellion Big One in London.  A 4 day legal and non-disruptive demonstration to draw attention to the climate emergency and loss of biodiversity - something I care deeply about.I wasn't there to glue myself to roads, smash windows or get arrested (XR [...]