So in summary, my advice would be to try and engage with the joys of summer, even if that means being a little creative this year. For me, I see two main challenges here.
Bringing plans to fruition
A big one, particularly in terms of coaching, is the potential harm of not fulfilling our hopes and dreams and failing to bring our plans to fruition. I believe it’s so important for us to grow and develop. Life becomes very difficult if we feel thwarted, blocked or stagnant (indeed smooth flow is the very essence of physical and emotional health in Chinese medicine). It really is possible to keep a positive momentum going, even under lockdown or restrictions, and where the future ahead feels a little uncertain.
The toxicity of unharnessed anger
Another potential issue is the anger, ill-feeing and xenophobia that seems prevalent. Not only are they toxic emotions, both to the person holding them and who they’re directed at, they take away our ability to be nourished by the love, joy, fun, passion and compassion which are so key to this time of year. Perhaps easier said than done at times, but we should try to find some shared humanity. Instead of seeing threats, we should attempt to feel love and compassion for the people – and flora and fauna – with which we share this country and planet.
Now, this can be particularly challenging. I’m certainly not immune to the anger and despair at the events happening right now, both home and away. When I feel like this, I often try and shut it out, and ignore it so I can return to my calm, content life of privilege. But, for the past year or so I’ve been feeling that, instead of burying my head in the sand, I should try and harness these emotions into a positive force. That means getting involved, on whatever level possible, to try and create a world and society where I want to live. I’m pondering this a lot right now, spurred on with by words such as these:
“Use anger like a fuel to change things. Don’t opt out when you hate the establishment – it’s what they want. Opt in, organise & demand.”
Jess Phillips, May 30 2020
None of this is easy. I know how difficult I find it and I’m not sure what I’ll do. But I do know that if all the good people feel it’s too much to cope with, then we’re in trouble. If you’re trying to work some of this stuff out for yourself and need a helping hand, do get in touch.