Whilst in that calm, conscious place, wipe the slate clean and look at everything with a fresh perspective. Consider:
- What am I doing that someone else can do? (delegate, pay, share the load, empower others, all whilst taking tolerable steps to be ok with this as it won’t feel easy)
- What am I taking on that I don’t need to? (are you easing others’ workloads whilst making yours unmanageable because you can’t say no?)
- What am I doing that doesn’t need doing at all, or doesn’t need doing so frequently? (try to find balance based on evidence and preference using tolerable steps, rather than toxic hidden drivers that mean you can’t cope with an unwashed cup or letting a non-urgent task wait – clues for hidden drivers are it can become all-consuming and makes you feel a little crazy!
And finally, do notice if that inner voice is saying no way, there’s no time, what does she know, I have to keep pushing, there’s no choice.
It’s the voice of an activated stress system – and trust me, it’s not telling you the full truth.
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P.S. this is a regular topic for me, because everyone is stressed! stressed! stressed! Check out another blog on a similar topic with more helpful hints here.