These are just a few examples, wow there’s so many. And it really is astounding the impact that this can have on us EVERY DAY. Think of all the times you’re frustrated with yourself and wondering why you’re acting in the way you are. And then imagine that you’re actually asking a 3 year old toddler, a 10 year old child or a grumpy teenager to cope. It then starts to make a little sense.
Remember, this doesn’t have to be about abusive, neglective parents (although it does include that). This is usually this is about unresolved trauma passing through the generations – people trying their best but not really dealing with stuff so well.
And the great news is, it doesn’t have to be this way.
We can become the parent these inner children need – with understanding, unconditional love, support, availability, balance.
And the magic of that is that we then don’t need to look for approval, safety, love, to be fixed or numbed from other people or other things. We can invite what we want into our lives from a place of positive conscious choice rather than a desperate, unconscious need.
And we can heal and show up as our wonderful, capable adult selves.
This work isn’t easy but it is sooo possible.