I’m often asked "do I need coaching or counselling" and so thought I’d share my own take on this here. I’ve often heard it said that counselling or therapy is about the past, and coaching is about the present and the future. I understand what’s meant by that, but it’s an oversimplification that I believe does a disservice to both coaching and counselling. Or some say that coaching is about setting and achieving goals, whereas counselling is about solving [...]
Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: It's amazing the stories we tell ourselves. The constant narratives we have about who we are, what we can and can't do, even what has happened to us and what that now means. Our brains love a good story, and our nervous systems love familiarity and hence these narratives get bedded in. But what if they're not [...]
Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Ok, so we’ve looked at whether you’re a rebel and, if you are, found some simple techniques to motivate yourself without the usual refusal and rejection. And found ways to build helpful habits whilst honouring your need to call the shots. This week’s blog is about how to harness the benefits of a routine, when you’re a [...]
Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Ok, so last week I used some of super useful Gretchen Rubin’s strategies from her Four Tendencies work to help our inner rebel find motivation and work towards goals and objectives without resistance (check out the blog here). But I’ve also got a few tips of my own about how to create habits that stick and design [...]
Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: Are you struggling with motivation, productivity or making habits stick. Do you keep trying to put a new routine in place or plans into action, only for everything to go out of the window not long after? You might be a rebel and rebelling against yourself. You might not see yourself as a rebel but do read [...]
I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions. And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions. Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]
As a rule, I don't do politics here but I wanted to share what I was up to last weekend. I got on a train at a shockingly early time last Saturday and headed down to the Extinction Rebellion Big One in London. A 4 day legal and non-disruptive demonstration to draw attention to the climate emergency and loss of biodiversity - something I care deeply about.I wasn't there to glue myself to roads, smash windows or get arrested (XR [...]
This is one my fave analogies and has been cropping up a lot this week with my coaching. I work with ambitious people who often have complex demands on their time and energy, big decisions to make, difficult stuff to deal with. And that means life can be tricky. And we do great work helping them to reduce their stress, build resilience and find clarity, productivity and new ways to harness their strengths. Fab. But the real big shifts [...]
Avoidant attachment style, authenticity and sharing the real you.... I'm fascinated my Attachment Theory and work with it often with clients. It's a psychological theory based on the premise that our early-life experiences create blueprints for all our relationship patterns. If our primary childhood caregivers were unable to meet our needs of safety, trust, love etc. (for whatever reason - this isn't a blame game), then secure attachment is inhibited. I could go on endlessly here but this week my main [...]
I've been banging on a lot lately about relieving stress (because everyone's so frazzled!). And also because I know that a well regulated nervous system is the foundation for all my clients want to do (embrace new ways, stop playing it small and safe, get clear on what they want, feel comfortable in who they are, take their place in a safe and sustainable way). But managing stress isn't just about avoiding it - there's good stress too! Many [...]
