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Gratitude & Self Esteem: Using gratitude to feel better about yourself
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Gratitude & Self Esteem: Using gratitude to feel better about yourself

Confidence, Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence, Self esteem, Self help

Gratitude & Self Esteem: Using gratitude to feel better about yourself

One of the many benefits shown from practicing regular gratitude is feeling better about other people, and having stronger connections. So how about using a similar technique to start feeling better about yourself? Here's how gratitude can boost your self esteem. (Last week’s blog's was all about how much a regular gratitude practice might help - and how to make a start. Check it out if you missed it or need a refresher.) Biggest obstacle I see that’s [...]

Emma Byers2023-02-17T15:18:29+00:0017 February 2023|Categories: Confidence, Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence, Self esteem, Self help|Tags: authenticity, be thankful, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, finding the good, gratitude, healing trauma, healthy relationships, mental health, polyvagal theory, seeing the good, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self sabotage, self-care, somatics, thank you, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, uniqueness, wellbeing|Comments Off

How to Harness Gratitude
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How to Harness Gratitude

Self Care, Self help

How to Harness Gratitude

I’m guessing you’ve probably heard the word “gratitude” floating around, particularly in the world of wellbeing and self care. But how much are you using it, and how useful do you think it can be? I know for many it can feel like a superficial spread. Feeling sad, stressed, overwhelmed? No, you're not allowed to feel any of that - instead you've got to appreciate what you’ve got! Yeah, I get where many people say “gratitude” through gritted teeth. [...]

Emma Byers2023-02-10T12:35:24+00:0010 February 2023|Categories: Self Care, Self help|Tags: be thankful, emotional health, finding the good, gratitude, healing trauma, healthy relationships, mental health, polyvagal theory, seeing the good, self care tips, self-care, somatics, thank you, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, wellbeing|Comments Off

Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs
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Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs

Introvert, Self Care, Self help

Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs

So how are you doing with getting to know your inner child? What ages are they when they show up? And perhaps most importantly, how are you getting on with understanding them, and being kind and compassionate to them? I hope last week's blog gave you a few pointers on how to tune into them, how they might be impacting you, and how to start to build a relationship with them. And also helped shine a light on why [...]

Emma Byers2023-01-19T20:03:28+00:0019 January 2023|Categories: Introvert, Self Care, Self help|Tags: attachment, attachment theory, healing trauma, healthy boudaries, healthy relationships, inner child, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self-care, socialising, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Is your inner child running the show?
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Is your inner child running the show?

Introvert, Self Care, Self help

Is your inner child running the show?

Guess what? You’re filled with little people. And a lot of the time, they’re running the show. No, I haven’t lost the plot (honest). Hear me out…. When we experience traumas which don’t get resolved, particularly in our early years, then our younger selves get stuck in the cycling of that experience. They remain inside of us, and show up whenever something similar arises. They take over our behaviours and reactions, trying to keep us safe (but their toolkit [...]

Emma Byers2023-01-13T12:47:07+00:0013 January 2023|Categories: Introvert, Self Care, Self help|Tags: attachment, attachment theory, healing trauma, healthy boudaries, healthy relationships, inner child, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self-care, socialising, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)
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Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

Introvert, Self Care, Self help

Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

I'm Emma, and I'm a committed introvert. I 🧡 time on my own and I can easily get lost in a solo world. And much as I love being with people (and I really do - hence my job), I can find big, busy gatherings tiring, if not overwhelming and run out of steam if I'm with too many people for too long. And I know I'm not the only one. Most of my clients are introverts too and [...]

Emma Byers2022-12-16T14:46:40+00:0016 December 2022|Categories: Introvert, Self Care, Self help|Tags: anxiety, can't make friends, fear of socialising, hate parties, healthy boudaries, introvert, overcoming shyness, self care tips, self-care, setting boudaries, shy, shyness, social anxiety, socialising|Comments Off

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own
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How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

Self help

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

One of my tips from last week’s Winter-Blues-Beating toolkit was to “feed the fire with strong, meaningful connections”. And I stand by this. We are pack animals, and we need other people. The health impacts of loneliness are well documented, not to mention the profound emotional impact. Being part of a tribe, being seen and belonging are vital to the internal fire that gives us warmth, energy, love, joy, connection, purpose and support. But I also [...]

Emma Byers2022-12-08T11:25:31+00:006 December 2022|Categories: Self help|Tags: anxiety, avoidant attachment, can't make friends, disorganised attachment, introvert, loneliness, lonely, no friends, overcoming shyness, self care tips, self-care, shy, shyness, social anxiety|Comments Off

How to Beat the Winter Blues
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How to Beat the Winter Blues

Emotional health, Self Care, Self help, Winter

How to Beat the Winter Blues

Winter’s back – and so it’s time to return to my series of seasonal blogs and look at how to beat the winter blues. Each time I revisit these blogs, I gain a more nuanced understanding, and my toolkit for flourishing improves. And so, I hope you don’t mind the occasional repetition and that you too can embrace sitting with the familiar to gain a deeper resonance. And that, my friends, is really key to this time of year. [...]

Emma Byers2022-11-24T18:17:47+00:0024 November 2022|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Self help, Winter|Tags: accept yourself, authentic self, beat the winter blues, depression, gifts of winter, hibernation, hygge, know yourself, look within, low energy, low mood, making winter work, overcome winter blues, SAD, seasonal affective disorder, self acceptance, self care tips, self love, self-care, vitamin D, winter blues|Comments Off

Dealing with bad news: how to stay sane and stay engaged when chaos reigns
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Dealing with bad news: how to stay sane and stay engaged when chaos reigns

Emotional health, Self Care, Self help, Stress, Stress and Anxiety

Dealing with bad news: how to stay sane and stay engaged when chaos reigns

It's hard to miss the news right now. And it feels like none of is it good. And so many people I know are fed up with dealing with bad news so are stepping away from it altogether. And I get that. I did the same myself back in 2016 when my nervous system was shot with ill health and burnout (and Trump 🙄). And there's no doubt that being exposed to these stories absolutely creates a stress response in us, [...]

Emma Byers2022-10-24T10:02:08+00:0024 October 2022|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Self help, Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: anxiety, attention, breathe, coping with covid, dealing with bad news, emotional health, emotional health coaching, feeling overwhelmed, life coaching, Mindfulness, Mindfulness coach, panic, panic attacks, reduce stress, resilience, self-care, soothe anxiety, soothe stress & anxiety, staying engaged, stress, stress busting, stress management|Comments Off

Soothe Stress and Anxiety with the Mindful First Aid Kit and the Senses
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Soothe Stress and Anxiety with the Mindful First Aid Kit and the Senses

Emotional health, Self Care, Self help

Soothe Stress and Anxiety with the Mindful First Aid Kit and the Senses

I've created this page to make it easy to find my blogs all about how to soothe stress & anxiety. I'm passionate about the role the non-conscious brain and the nervous system have on how we think, act and show up. For change to really happen - and last - we have to bring our nervous system along for the ride, in a safe and sustainable way. As powerful as cognitive coaching can be, if the nervous system is dysregulated [...]

Emma Byers2023-10-12T11:57:05+00:0023 September 2022|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Self help|Tags: and breathe, anxiety, autonomic stress response, beat overwhelm, breathe, coping with covid, emotional health, emotional health coaching, feeling overwhelmed, life coaching, Mindfulness, Mindfulness coach, panic, panic attacks, reduce stress, relaxation, resilience, self-care, sight, soothe anxiety, soothe stress & anxiety, stress, stress busting, stress management, sympathetic stress response, the 5 senses|Comments Off

Soothe Your Nervous System by Tuning Into the 5 Senses: Touch
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Soothe Your Nervous System by Tuning Into the 5 Senses: Touch

Emotional health, Self Care, Self help

Soothe Your Nervous System by Tuning Into the 5 Senses: Touch

Here’s the final blog in my series about how to soothe the nervous system and restore a sense of calm using our five senses. It’s the turn of touch, a powerful tool for feeling better when stress, anxiety or overwhelm are looming. The techniques listed in these blogs are all great ways of finding some calm. Some are more complicated than others so use the rules of KISS to find the ones the resonate with you. With practice, they'll [...]

Emma Byers2021-04-06T15:51:15+00:006 April 2021|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Self help|Tags: and breathe, anxiety, autonomic stress response, beat overwhelm, breathe, comfort blanket, emotional health, emotional health coaching, feeling overwhelmed, human touch, life coaching, Mindfulness, Mindfulness coach, overwhelm, panic, panic attacks, reduce stress, relaxation, resilience, self supportive touch, self-care, sense of touch, soothe anxiety, soothe stress & anxiety, stay calm, stress, stress busting, stress busting foods, stress management, stressfree, supportive touch, sympathetic stress response, the 5 senses, weighted blanket|Comments Off

Gratitude & Self Esteem: Using gratitude to feel better about yourself

How to Harness Gratitude

Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs

Is your inner child running the show?

Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

How to Beat the Winter Blues

Dealing with bad news: how to stay sane and stay engaged when chaos reigns

Soothe Stress and Anxiety with the Mindful First Aid Kit and the Senses

Soothe Your Nervous System by Tuning Into the 5 Senses: Touch

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