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The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem with how you talk to yourself
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The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem with how you talk to yourself

Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem with how you talk to yourself

Mind Your Language! Building self esteem with how you talk to yourself... One of the most common themes from my coaching space is self-compassion (or at least the lack of it). Many of my clients are high achievers who have been using punishment, stress and self-annihilation to motivate themselves (but uh-oh, it’s not working anymore).They have a cruel inner critical, always telling themselves they’re useless, lazy, stupid, less than, not good enough…(the list goes on…). And they sprinkle their words often [...]

Emma Byers2024-09-17T10:13:27+00:0016 September 2024|Categories: Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: affirmations, be kind to yourself, build self esteem, confidence, holistic life coaching, inner critic, negative self talk, negative voice, self compassion, self confidence, self esteem, self sabotage|Comments Off

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out
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5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

Journalling, Procrastination, Self confidence, Self esteem

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

This week, I've been reminding a few people about the benefits of journalling. I'm a huge fan of journalling and recommend it to all my clients. It's a fabulous support tool for our work together. In fact, I'd say it can help anyone out there - so read on... (p.s. if you want to give journalling a go but don't know where to start, I've got a great guide - just email me and I'll send you a copy) [...]

Emma Byers2024-07-04T10:52:16+00:004 July 2024|Categories: Journalling, Procrastination, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: a new perspective, benefits of journalling, circular thinking, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, get perspective, holistic life coaching, journalling, people pleasing, Procrastination, self awareness, self esteem|Comments Off

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)
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Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Confidence, Healthy boundaries, saying no, Self confidence

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Are there times when you say yes, when you really want to say no? That's been a common theme in my coaching this week. Many of my clients have people-pleasing traits and that means it can be difficult not to automatically take things on when asked, fearful of not being liked, of causing disappointment or - a biggie - of encountering conflict. And the impact of this can be: feeling tired, stressed, and resentful when you're juggling too many balls getting [...]

Emma Byers2024-06-06T16:00:51+00:006 June 2024|Categories: Confidence, Healthy boundaries, saying no, Self confidence|Tags: celebrate your wins, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, getting things done, goal setting, holistic life coaching, Procrastination, self esteem, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)
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Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

Goal Setting, Habit formation, Procrastination

Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

I'm writing this a little dozy after a late night at the Bruce Springsteen concert at Stadium of Light, Sunderland. I'll be honest - I'm no Bruce fan, I'm not one for gigs in huge stadiums, and the weather forecast was horrendous. The tickets were a gift to Mr B who's a fan and I got dragged along. Long story short: I didn't want to go; I moaned about it a lot; I had an amazing time and absolutely loved [...]

Emma Byers2024-06-06T11:45:58+00:006 June 2024|Categories: Goal Setting, Habit formation, Procrastination|Tags: celebrate your wins, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, getting things done, goal setting, holistic life coaching, Procrastination, self esteem, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)
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Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)

Goal Setting, Habit formation, Procrastination

Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)

Daily goal setting is something many do, but often use it as a weapon rather than a tool of support. Let me explain... This is one for those who struggle with procrastination and self punishment. I would say these are such common battles for the people I work with - high achievers who are very hard on themselves, motivating themselves through stress, harshness and last minute deadlines. They're usually noticing that these tactics are working less effectively and the [...]

Emma Byers2024-05-23T13:03:53+00:0023 May 2024|Categories: Goal Setting, Habit formation, Procrastination|Tags: celebrate your wins, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, getting things done, goal setting, holistic life coaching, Procrastination, self esteem, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)
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Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

As a rule, I don't do politics here but I wanted to share what I was up to last weekend. I got on a train at a shockingly early time last Saturday and headed down to the Extinction Rebellion Big One in London. A 4 day legal and non-disruptive demonstration to draw attention to the climate emergency and loss of biodiversity - something I care deeply about.I wasn't there to glue myself to roads, smash windows or get arrested (XR [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-30T14:49:16+00:0028 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: action, emotional health, frozen, healing trauma, polyvagal theory, procrastinating, Procrastination, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, spinning on the spot, stuck, taking action, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack
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Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

This is one my fave analogies and has been cropping up a lot this week with my coaching. I work with ambitious people who often have complex demands on their time and energy, big decisions to make, difficult stuff to deal with. And that means life can be tricky. And we do great work helping them to reduce their stress, build resilience and find clarity, productivity and new ways to harness their strengths. Fab. But the real big shifts [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-26T10:05:50+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you
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Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Avoidant attachment style, authenticity and sharing the real you.... I'm fascinated my Attachment Theory and work with it often with clients. It's a psychological theory based on the premise that our early-life experiences create blueprints for all our relationship patterns. If our primary childhood caregivers were unable to meet our needs of safety, trust, love etc. (for whatever reason - this isn't a blame game), then secure attachment is inhibited. I could go on endlessly here but this week my main [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-24T13:45:53+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

Are you working beyond capacity?
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Are you working beyond capacity?

Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence

Are you working beyond capacity?

Right now. I'm coaching many people who are struggling to make energetic ends meet. They're overworked, under rested, on a hamster wheel of stress and never catching up. And this is at home as well as work. They're working beyond capacity and burnout looms.There's a lot of under-resourced organisations out there, meaning over-stretched people. And entrepreneurs are trying to keep their businesses afloat in tricky times, attempting to do everything themselves. Plus the demands of home and kids keep [...]

Emma Byers2023-03-27T11:50:01+00:0027 March 2023|Categories: Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence|Tags: celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, impact, Know your value, mental health, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, value|Comments Off

Know Your Value: It doesn’t have to be blood, sweat and tears
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Know Your Value: It doesn’t have to be blood, sweat and tears

Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence

Know Your Value: It doesn’t have to be blood, sweat and tears

An old favourite topic return to my coaching space this week - challenging the notion that slog and graft is the way we prove our worth and value.So many of us seem to feel the need to show that we're working, that we're delivering, that we're earning our keep is by providing blood, sweat and tears. Many of us - indeed our society - seems very tied to the idea that we have to PROVE our value with effort, [...]

Emma Byers2023-02-27T15:51:33+00:0027 February 2023|Categories: Gratitude, Self Care, Self confidence|Tags: celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, impact, Know your value, mental health, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, value|Comments Off

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem with how you talk to yourself

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Are you working beyond capacity?

Know Your Value: It doesn’t have to be blood, sweat and tears

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