Is Perfectionism a Problem? (#2 Perfectionism Series)

Some of the problems your perfectionism might be causing I’m often asked “is perfectionism is problem?”. My answer is yes, but it can be a hard sell sometimes to my perfectionist clients.  Many associate perfectionism with high standards, achieving new heights, exceptionalism, ambition, success…The list goes on with many things we value highly in our society. (BTW if you wondering if you are a perfectionist, check out my first blog in this series here.) But the impact of [...]

Am I A Perfectionist? (#1 Perfectionism Series)

Some signs that you might be a perfectionist - and why it's getting in your way Am I a perfectionist? Me? No.  I'm not good enough...I don't work hard enough...I'm not organised enough to be a perfectionist (hint - these phrases themselves suggest there's at least some perfectionism!)There's quite a lot of misunderstanding about what perfectionism is, and how it shows up.  And even whether it's a bad thing or not. It's not a great term - we [...]

Overcoming all-or-nothing thinking

Overcoming all-or-nothing, black and white thinking, or dichotomous thinking (they're all the same thing!) All-or-nothing thinking is a common theme in my coaching - I'll never be able to do this, if this doesn't work it's a failure, if I don't do x, it will have to be y...  We all do it and it's not that big a deal occasionally,  But when this becomes a consistent pattern, or mindset, it can really make things tough. What is all-or-nothing thinking?All-or-nothing [...]

Is it just me?

I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions.  And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions.  Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]