people pleasing

Healthy Boundaries #2: Understanding Healthy Boundaries (when you’ve never really had them)

Last week, I wrote about feeling responsible for everyone else's emotions – that exhausting pattern of carrying weight that isn't yours, losing yourself while trying to keep everyone else happy. If that resonated with you, it's likely because somewhere along the way you never really learned what healthy boundaries look and feel like. And that makes sense. As children, we learn by watching adults set, respect, and communicate limits. Also, by practicing through interactions like sharing, respecting personal space, [...]

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Healthy Boundaries #1: Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? Read this…

Do you tense up when you know someone's upset? Are you always scanning to check if everyone's okay, perhaps running through what you might have said or done wrong? Do you focus so much time on trying to keep the atmosphere happy or harmonious, that you always biting your tongue, and losing sight of what you really think and feel? If you're nodding, you're probably someone who feels responsible for everyone else's wellbeing, happiness, and emotions. Not in a [...]

2026-02-26T19:53:04+00:0012 February 2026|Categories: Healthy boundaries, People pleasing|Tags: , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Healthy Boundaries #1: Feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions? Read this…

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

This week, I've been reminding a few people about the benefits of journalling.  I'm a huge fan of journalling and recommend it to all my clients. It's a fabulous support tool for our work together. In fact, I'd say it can help anyone out there - so read on... (p.s. if you want to give journalling a go but don't know where to start, I've got a great guide - just email me and I'll send you a copy) [...]

Nourish or Numb?

When you're stressed, do you nourish or numb?  We often unconsciously use activities which soothe the autonomic nervous system (ANS).  This is the non-conscious part of our brain and body that is responsible for our survival (on a basic level, it's the flight or fight response). These activities help us to come back towards regulation - a calmer, more conscious Ventral state where we can choose how we act rather than react.  (BTW, I'm using the language of Polyvagal Theory [...]

Is it just me?

I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions.  And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions.  Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]