When you're stressed, do you nourish or numb? We often unconsciously use activities which soothe the autonomic nervous system (ANS). This is the non-conscious part of our brain and body that is responsible for our survival (on a basic level, it's the flight or fight response). These activities help us to come back towards regulation - a calmer, more conscious Ventral state where we can choose how we act rather than react. (BTW, I'm using the language of Polyvagal Theory [...]
In a previous blog, I mentioned the biggest stumbling blocks I see for those struggling to put their plans into (consistent) action - going too big, too quickly, and only focusing on the goal; not celebrating the steps to get there. BTW this is part of a mini series of blogs about building healthy habits that last - you can see the other parts here and here... Another major stumbling block is how many of us feel that the [...]
I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions. And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions. Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]
The battle with "enough" is a regular one for my clients - the eager entrepreneurs, the diligent employees, and those more comfortable with being hard on themselves than cheering themselves on. And wow, it's a huge topic - definitely one for all of us struggling with perfectionism (though I now class myself as an "almost" recovered perfectionist). So I'm sure I'll return to it again in these blogs, but let's make a start here: How to know when [...]
