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The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)
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The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

Attachment theory

The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

This is the third blog in a series on attachment theory and the different attachment styles. You can find the others here: Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do 5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment I promised my newsletter readers I'd share more about my own experience of having a predominantly avoidant attachment style, and how I've moved it towards something more secure. Gulp, I'm going to share what I've written to them [...]

Emma Byers2026-08-18T21:00:45+00:0014 August 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment
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5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

Attachment theory

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

This is the second blog in a series on attachment theory and the different attachment styles. You can find the first blog in this series - Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do - here Does any of this sound familiar? Someone gets close – emotionally, not just physically – and something in you steps back. You prefer to be a bit of a lone wolf, keeping everyone at arm's length, not letting anyone in. [...]

Emma Byers2026-07-31T16:28:29+00:0031 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, healing avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do
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Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

Attachment theory

Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

This is the first blog in a series on attachment theory explained. It covers attachment styles, what they are, how they can impact your relationships and more, and how to move towards a more secure attachment style... Have you ever caught yourself doing something and thought, why am I reacting like this? Or why do I always do that? Maybe it's not just one thing – it's a shape you can trace across your whole history. You get a few months [...]

Emma Byers2026-09-01T19:17:26+00:0017 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, disorganised attachment, fearful-avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series
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Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

Attachment theory

Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

I've created this page to make it easy to find all my blogs on attachment styles and how to move towards secure attachment. I'm fascinated by attachment theory and, for some people I work with, it can be a really useful lens of exploration. Attachment styles mainly form in early childhood, based on how consistently our needs for warmth, love and safety were met. They're not a flaw or a life sentence – they're protective patterns that made brilliant [...]

Emma Byers2026-10-08T22:29:40+00:0016 July 2026|Categories: Attachment theory|Tags: anxious attachment, attachment styles, attachment theory, avoidant attachment, disorganised attachment, fearful-avoidant attachment, healthy relationships, secure attachment|Comments Off

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack
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Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

This is one my fave analogies and has been cropping up a lot this week with my coaching. I work with ambitious people who often have complex demands on their time and energy, big decisions to make, difficult stuff to deal with. And that means life can be tricky. And we do great work helping them to reduce their stress, build resilience and find clarity, productivity and new ways to harness their strengths. Fab. But the real big shifts [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-26T10:05:50+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you
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Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Avoidant attachment style, authenticity and sharing the real you.... I'm fascinated my Attachment Theory and work with it often with clients. It's a psychological theory based on the premise that our early-life experiences create blueprints for all our relationship patterns. If our primary childhood caregivers were unable to meet our needs of safety, trust, love etc. (for whatever reason - this isn't a blame game), then secure attachment is inhibited. I could go on endlessly here but this week my main [...]

Emma Byers2026-07-30T17:45:18+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own
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How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

Self help

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

One of my tips from last week’s Winter-Blues-Beating toolkit was to “feed the fire with strong, meaningful connections”. And I stand by this. We are pack animals, and we need other people. The health impacts of loneliness are well documented, not to mention the profound emotional impact. Being part of a tribe, being seen and belonging are vital to the internal fire that gives us warmth, energy, love, joy, connection, purpose and support. But I also [...]

Emma Byers2022-12-08T11:25:31+00:006 December 2022|Categories: Self help|Tags: anxiety, avoidant attachment, can't make friends, disorganised attachment, introvert, loneliness, lonely, no friends, overcoming shyness, self care tips, self-care, shy, shyness, social anxiety|Comments Off

The Secrets and Vulnerabilities of a Semi-Healed Avoidant (Me!)

5 Simple Steps to Start Healing Avoidant Attachment

Attachment Styles Explained: Why You Attach the Way You Do

Moving Towards Secure Attachment: The Attachment Styles Blog Series

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

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