Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

I'm Emma, and I'm a committed introvert. I 🧡 time on my own and I can easily get lost in a solo world.  And much as I love being with people (and I really do - hence my job), I can find big, busy gatherings tiring, if not overwhelming and run out of steam if I'm with too many people for too long. And I know I'm not the only one.  Most of my clients are introverts too and [...]

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How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

One of my tips from last week’s Winter-Blues-Beating toolkit was to “feed the fire with strong, meaningful connections”.   And I stand by this.  We are pack animals, and we need other people.  The health impacts of loneliness are well documented, not to mention the profound emotional impact.  Being part of a tribe, being seen and belonging are vital to the internal fire that gives us warmth, energy, love, joy, connection, purpose and support. But I also [...]

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Why am I so angry? The answer might not be what you think

Lots of people are asking "why am I so angry?" right now.  They're struggling with the emotion - how it makes them feel and the impact on others.  I'm also aware that I spoke of "harnessing anger" for good in last week's blog, and some of you are wondering how to do that.  And so I thought this was worth a bit more exploration. Anger in Chinese Medicine In Chinese Medicine, anger is the emotion of [...]

Dealing with bad news: how to stay sane and stay engaged when chaos reigns

It's hard to miss the news right now.  And it feels like none of is it good.  And so many people I know are fed up with dealing with bad news so are stepping away from it altogether. And I get that.  I did the same myself back in 2016 when my nervous system was shot with ill health and burnout (and Trump 🙄).  And there's no doubt that being exposed to these stories absolutely creates a stress response in us, [...]

5 Simple Steps to Work Efficiently

A recurrent theme of my coaching this week (in fact, most weeks) is how to work efficiently. Many of my clients are go-getting employees or ambitious entrepreneurs and all are super busy. And often super stressed. And if I'm honest, not operating super efficiently or effectively (mainly because of this stress). Instead, they're firefighting, juggling, and dealing with whatever's shouting the loudest. They're being pulled in many different directions and feeling overwhelmed. And they're starting to become frazzled and [...]

Soothe Stress and Anxiety with the Mindful First Aid Kit and the Senses

I've created this page to make it easy to find my blogs all about how to soothe stress & anxiety.  I'm passionate about the role the non-conscious brain and  the nervous system have on how we think, act and show up.  For change to really happen - and last - we have to bring our nervous system along for the ride, in a safe and sustainable way.  As powerful as cognitive coaching can be, if the nervous system is dysregulated [...]

Why am I feeling stuck? Overcoming internal resistance and exploring options

Are you feeling stuck right now?  Have you taken time to notice how you react to suggestions, new possibilities and different options? You might be struggling with what I call the "instant no"?  Or perhaps more accurately, it's not so much of a hard no (because we're also the people who often find it tricky to set clear boundaries).  It's probably more of a "hmm, not sure that's for me", a "but what if.." or a "that's beyond me; [...]

Multitasking – Help or Hindrance? And The Art of Doing Nothing

Is multitasking a help or hindrance to you? I've been a fully signed-up member of the Multitasking Gang for many years. But - gulp - I know it doesn't always help and I've worked hard to keep it in some sort of balance so it works with me, rather than against me. It’s something I talk about regularly with my clients because so many of us seem to be like computers running 100+ programs at any one time (and [...]

Stressed? Exhausted? Read this! How to work with your capacity

I don't know about you, but right now, so many people I'm encountering are stressed and exhausted.  There's a lot going on and many things are feeling scary - both in the big picture and closer to home.  And all this comes on the back of 2 years in a pandemic.So it's not surprising, but it is something we have to be aware of - how to work with our capacity.  In honesty, I'm pretty good at this now.  Chronic [...]

How to Stop Procrastinating and Get Stuff Done

Prefer to listen rather than read?  You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: My name is Emma, and I’m a procrastinator. Or at least I’m a pretty much recovered procrastinator, and I’m happy to share with you how I did it. If you’re struggling to get your good intentions to stick, to tick things off that to-do list, and to do the things you know you’ll feel better for doing, [...]