Choosing Hope (when times are tough)

Choosing hope; choosing happy One of my inspiring clients said "I choose happy" yesterday.  She is going to actively work on releasing past hurts and sadness, to move towards happiness.I love this.  We often think of happy, fulfilled, content, hopeful, even relaxed as states that will just happen to us if we can just fix something, or if something will stop. We are passive in the process (other than focusing on the problems, or our own shortcomings)But the reality is that we can be active in [...]

2025-01-19T16:32:33+00:0019 January 2025|Categories: Goal setting, setting intentions|Tags: , , , , , |Comments Off on Choosing Hope (when times are tough)

Setting Intentions for 2025

In Chinese Medicine, winter is the season of the Water element.   Key themes include stillness, reflection, wisdom, determination, and paring back to the essences. It's the perfect time for setting intentions; to look deep within, and tune into an internal wisdom; to take stock of where you are and where you're heading, what your heart desires, what's true to you. BTW if you want to know more about the energy of winter and how to find this time of year [...]

2025-01-09T11:47:17+00:0020 December 2024|Categories: Goal setting, setting intentions|Tags: , , , , , |Comments Off on Setting Intentions for 2025

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Are there times when you say yes, when you really want to say no?  That's been a common theme in my coaching this week.  Many of my clients have people-pleasing traits and that means it can be difficult not to automatically take things on when asked, fearful of not being liked, of causing disappointment or - a biggie - of encountering conflict.  And the impact of this can be: feeling tired, stressed, and resentful when you're juggling too many balls getting [...]

Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

I'm writing this a little dozy after a late night at the Bruce Springsteen concert at Stadium of Light, Sunderland.  I'll be honest - I'm no Bruce fan, I'm not one for gigs in huge stadiums, and the weather forecast was horrendous.  The tickets were a gift to Mr B who's a fan and I got dragged along. Long story short: I didn't want to go; I moaned about it a lot; I had an amazing time and absolutely loved [...]

Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)

Daily goal setting is something many do, but often use it as a weapon rather than a tool of support.  Let me explain... This is one for those who struggle with procrastination and self punishment.  I would say these are such common battles for the people I work with - high achievers who are very hard on themselves, motivating themselves through stress, harshness and last minute deadlines. They're usually noticing that these tactics are working less effectively and the [...]