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The Self Esteem Series #4: Self-acceptance & making peace with the real you
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The Self Esteem Series #4: Self-acceptance & making peace with the real you

Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem

The Self Esteem Series #4: Self-acceptance & making peace with the real you

So many people are being so hard on themselves right now. In fact I'd go so far to say it's as if they're at war with themselves, or at the very least getting in their own way. Self-acceptance is tough.So I'm talking about more ways to work with, rather than against, ourselves Looking at how to become our own support system and cheerleaderAnd imagining just what might be possible if we can be on our own side, and supporting ourselves [...]

Emma Byers2024-10-10T16:59:08+00:0010 October 2024|Categories: Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: authentic self, authenticity, be kind to yourself, build self esteem, building self esteem, celebrate yourself, confidence, external validation, holistic life coaching, inner critic, negative self talk, negative voice, nurturing self esteem, quiet confidence, real you, self acceptable, self compassion, self confidence, self esteem, self sabotage, unconditional love|Comments Off

The Self Esteem Series #3: Changing your perspective to build self esteem
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The Self Esteem Series #3: Changing your perspective to build self esteem

Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety

The Self Esteem Series #3: Changing your perspective to build self esteem

It regularly makes me sad and mad in my coaching space when I see such impressive people struggling to see the gifts and value they bring. And wow it's so wonderful when those same people benefit from building their self esteem, moving from being their own biggest enemy to their own support system, even their own cheerleader . A key tool in building self esteem is tapping into a different perspective. Seeing something from another angle and outside of [...]

Emma Byers2024-10-10T16:59:45+00:0026 September 2024|Categories: Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: a new perspective, be kind to yourself, build self esteem, building self esteem, confidence, holistic life coaching, inner critic, negative self talk, negative voice, new perspective, nurturing self esteem, quiet confidence, self compassion, self confidence, self esteem, self sabotage|Comments Off

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk
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The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk

Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk

Dialling down the negative self-talk so self esteem can flourish One of the most common themes from my coaching space is self-compassion (or at least the lack of it). Many of my clients are high achievers who have been using punishment, stress and self-annihilation to motivate themselves (but uh-oh, it’s not working anymore).The negative self-talk is constant, with a cruel inner critical, always telling themselves they’re useless, lazy, stupid, less than, not good enough…(the list goes on…). And they sprinkle [...]

Emma Byers2024-10-10T10:02:45+00:0016 September 2024|Categories: Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: affirmations, be kind to yourself, build self esteem, confidence, holistic life coaching, inner critic, negative self talk, negative voice, self compassion, self confidence, self esteem, self sabotage|Comments Off

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out
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5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

Journalling, Procrastination, Self confidence, Self esteem

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

This week, I've been reminding a few people about the benefits of journalling. I'm a huge fan of journalling and recommend it to all my clients. It's a fabulous support tool for our work together. In fact, I'd say it can help anyone out there - so read on... (p.s. if you want to give journalling a go but don't know where to start, I've got a great guide - just email me and I'll send you a copy) [...]

Emma Byers2024-07-04T10:52:16+00:004 July 2024|Categories: Journalling, Procrastination, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: a new perspective, benefits of journalling, circular thinking, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, get perspective, holistic life coaching, journalling, people pleasing, Procrastination, self awareness, self esteem|Comments Off

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)
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Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Confidence, Healthy boundaries, saying no, Self confidence

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Are there times when you say yes, when you really want to say no? That's been a common theme in my coaching this week. Many of my clients have people-pleasing traits and that means it can be difficult not to automatically take things on when asked, fearful of not being liked, of causing disappointment or - a biggie - of encountering conflict. And the impact of this can be: feeling tired, stressed, and resentful when you're juggling too many balls getting [...]

Emma Byers2024-06-06T16:00:51+00:006 June 2024|Categories: Confidence, Healthy boundaries, saying no, Self confidence|Tags: celebrate your wins, daily check-ins, daily goals, daily gratitude, getting things done, goal setting, holistic life coaching, Procrastination, self esteem, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Is that still true? Changing the narrative
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Is that still true? Changing the narrative

Confidence, Self Care, Self confidence, Self esteem

Is that still true? Changing the narrative

Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: It's amazing the stories we tell ourselves. The constant narratives we have about who we are, what we can and can't do, even what has happened to us and what that now means. Our brains love a good story, and our nervous systems love familiarity and hence these narratives get bedded in. But what if they're not [...]

Emma Byers2023-06-20T13:53:24+00:0020 June 2023|Categories: Confidence, Self Care, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: Changing the narrative, holistic life coaching, quiet rebel, rebel, spinning on the spot, stuck, trauma-informed coaching, updating the story|Comments Off

Is it just me?
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Is it just me?

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Is it just me?

I adore my clients and am fascinated by their lives, their stories, their dreams and ambitions. And, of course, they are all wonderfully unique. But you'd be amazed by how similar the themes are in our coaching sessions. Topics that I bang on here regularly, like: being stressed, frazzled and trapped on a hamster wheel never feeling good enough being stuck, procrastinating and spinning on the spot being the "imposter", about to be caught out at any minute negative [...]

Emma Byers2023-05-15T13:34:44+00:0015 May 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: being unkind to self, broken, emotional health, healing trauma, imposter syndrome, is it just me?, never enough, not good enough, people pleasing, perfectionism, polyvagal theory, procrastinating, Procrastination, self sabotage, self-care, spinning on the spot, stuck, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)
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Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

As a rule, I don't do politics here but I wanted to share what I was up to last weekend. I got on a train at a shockingly early time last Saturday and headed down to the Extinction Rebellion Big One in London. A 4 day legal and non-disruptive demonstration to draw attention to the climate emergency and loss of biodiversity - something I care deeply about.I wasn't there to glue myself to roads, smash windows or get arrested (XR [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-30T14:49:16+00:0028 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: action, emotional health, frozen, healing trauma, polyvagal theory, procrastinating, Procrastination, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, spinning on the spot, stuck, taking action, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching|Comments Off

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack
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Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

This is one my fave analogies and has been cropping up a lot this week with my coaching. I work with ambitious people who often have complex demands on their time and energy, big decisions to make, difficult stuff to deal with. And that means life can be tricky. And we do great work helping them to reduce their stress, build resilience and find clarity, productivity and new ways to harness their strengths. Fab. But the real big shifts [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-26T10:05:50+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you
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Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

Avoidant attachment style, authenticity and sharing the real you.... I'm fascinated my Attachment Theory and work with it often with clients. It's a psychological theory based on the premise that our early-life experiences create blueprints for all our relationship patterns. If our primary childhood caregivers were unable to meet our needs of safety, trust, love etc. (for whatever reason - this isn't a blame game), then secure attachment is inhibited. I could go on endlessly here but this week my main [...]

Emma Byers2023-04-24T13:45:53+00:0024 April 2023|Categories: Attachment theory, avoidant attachment, Self confidence|Tags: authenticity, avoidant attachment, celebrate yourself, confidence, emotional health, healing trauma, healthy relationships, polyvagal theory, self care tips, self confidence, self esteem, self worth, self-care, sharing the real you, somatics, trauma-informed, trauma-informed coaching, vulnerability|Comments Off

The Self Esteem Series #4: Self-acceptance & making peace with the real you

The Self Esteem Series #3: Changing your perspective to build self esteem

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Is that still true? Changing the narrative

Is it just me?

Taking action (and overcoming procrastination, freeze and being stuck)

Are you making things harder for yourself? Take some rocks out of the backpack

Avoidant attachment style and sharing the real you

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