Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

I'm writing this a little dozy after a late night at the Bruce Springsteen concert at Stadium of Light, Sunderland.  I'll be honest - I'm no Bruce fan, I'm not one for gigs in huge stadiums, and the weather forecast was horrendous.  The tickets were a gift to Mr B who's a fan and I got dragged along. Long story short: I didn't want to go; I moaned about it a lot; I had an amazing time and absolutely loved [...]

Setting daily goals (and remembering the wins)

Daily goal setting is something many do, but often use it as a weapon rather than a tool of support.  Let me explain... This is one for those who struggle with procrastination and self punishment.  I would say these are such common battles for the people I work with - high achievers who are very hard on themselves, motivating themselves through stress, harshness and last minute deadlines. They're usually noticing that these tactics are working less effectively and the [...]

Building Healthy Habits That Last: #3 Try Compassion Instead

In a previous blog, I mentioned the biggest stumbling blocks I see for those struggling to put their plans into (consistent) action - going too big, too quickly, and only focusing on the goal; not celebrating the steps to get there.  BTW this is part of a mini series of blogs about building healthy habits that last - you can see the other parts here and here... Another major stumbling block is how many of us feel that the [...]

Building Healthy Habits That Last: #2 Welcoming Change With Feedback Loops

Behaviour change is hard work.  Our systems are wired to thrive on familiarity so are never keen on doing things differently. So how do we bring in new things, and help them to feel normal and routine, so they last without gritted teeth and willpower? Wow, there's so much to help with this (as I've mentioned before and am sure to keep banging on about - I hugely recommend James Clear's Atomic Habits book). But also I'm going to share a [...]

Building Healthy Habits That Last: #1 Cast a Vote

Habit forming is such a hot topic right now, and not least in my coaching space (and dare I say, in my own life too).  We all have such great plans for who we want to be, and what we want to do - but then struggle to make that happen. And the biggest stumbling blocks I see? Going too big, too quickly Only focusing on the goal, and not celebrating the actions oh and the third one is trying [...]