Creating environments that support and align with our goals

I'm a big advocate of creating environments that support and align with our goals.  I passionately believe in using the non-conscious parts of our body and brain to help us stretch for those things we want to achieve as well as our plans and intentions. And shaping the environment around us can make a huge difference. I'll share a few things we've been talking about this week, in how to shape a work environment that's conducive to your goals: [...]

2024-11-19T15:52:29+00:0019 November 2024|Categories: Confidence, Goal setting, Self confidence, Self esteem|Tags: , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Creating environments that support and align with our goals

The Self Esteem Series #4: Self-acceptance & making peace with the real you

So many people are being so hard on themselves right now.  In fact I'd go so far to say it's as if they're at war with themselves, or at the very least getting in their own way.  Self-acceptance is tough.So I'm talking about more ways to work with, rather than against, ourselves  Looking at how to become our own support system and cheerleaderAnd imagining just what might be possible if we can be on our own side, and supporting ourselves [...]

The Self Esteem Series #3: Changing your perspective to build self esteem

It regularly makes me sad and mad in my coaching space when I see such impressive people struggling to see the gifts and value they bring.  And wow it's so wonderful when those same people benefit from building their self esteem, moving from being their own biggest enemy to their own support system, even their own cheerleader . A key tool in building self esteem is tapping into a different perspective.  Seeing something from another angle and outside of [...]

The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk

Dialling down the negative self-talk so self esteem can flourish One of the most common themes from my coaching space is self-compassion (or at least the lack of it). Many of my clients are high achievers who have been using punishment, stress and self-annihilation to motivate themselves (but uh-oh, it’s not working anymore).The negative self-talk is constant, with a cruel inner critical, always telling themselves they’re useless, lazy, stupid, less than, not good enough…(the list goes on…).  And they sprinkle [...]

2024-10-10T10:02:45+00:0016 September 2024|Categories: Confidence, Self confidence, Self esteem, Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on The Self Esteem Series #2: Building self esteem by dialling down the negative self-talk

The Self Esteem Series #1: Using affirmations to build self esteem

I know they can be a little cringey but affirmations can be powerful tools to help build self esteem.  Done well, they can shift negative self talk, enhance motivation and encourage positive behaviour (and thought pattern) changes.  They can help to shift subconscious patterns replace them with a kinder, more flexible approach which boosts self identity and self esteem. So what’s an affirmation? An affirmation is a positive statement, aimed at changing the way we think and [...]

2024-09-17T09:57:21+00:0030 August 2024|Categories: Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: , , , |Comments Off on The Self Esteem Series #1: Using affirmations to build self esteem

Build Self Esteem with These Practical Hints & Tips (The Self Esteem Series)

I've created this page to make it easy to find my blogs about how to nurture and build self esteem. They are packed with practical hints and tips... In my coaching space, it regularly makes me sad and mad when I see such impressive people struggling to see the gifts and value they bring.  And wow it's so wonderful when those same people benefit from nurturing their self esteem, moving from being their own biggest enemy to their own [...]

2024-10-24T09:29:57+00:0026 August 2024|Categories: Emotional health, Self Care, Self help|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Build Self Esteem with These Practical Hints & Tips (The Self Esteem Series)

Holiday Guilt & Stress: take a break; ditch the guilt

I'm not the only who's got holiday plans at the moment - it's a regular conversation with my clients.  But what is interesting is how often there's holiday guilt when it comes to taking a break.  And how frequently I see this pattern: trying to put taking a break off as long as poss getting exhausted and approaching burnout collapsing into the hol and either getting ill or feeling so wired it takes days to wind down packing the [...]

2024-11-19T15:15:39+00:0011 July 2024|Categories: Stress, Stress and Anxiety|Tags: , , , |Comments Off on Holiday Guilt & Stress: take a break; ditch the guilt

5 Key Benefits of Journalling: Write it out to work it out

This week, I've been reminding a few people about the benefits of journalling.  I'm a huge fan of journalling and recommend it to all my clients. It's a fabulous support tool for our work together. In fact, I'd say it can help anyone out there - so read on... (p.s. if you want to give journalling a go but don't know where to start, I've got a great guide - just email me and I'll send you a copy) [...]

Learning how to say no (and hold healthy boundaries)

Are there times when you say yes, when you really want to say no?  That's been a common theme in my coaching this week.  Many of my clients have people-pleasing traits and that means it can be difficult not to automatically take things on when asked, fearful of not being liked, of causing disappointment or - a biggie - of encountering conflict.  And the impact of this can be: feeling tired, stressed, and resentful when you're juggling too many balls getting [...]

Saying yes (or turning a no into a maybe)

I'm writing this a little dozy after a late night at the Bruce Springsteen concert at Stadium of Light, Sunderland.  I'll be honest - I'm no Bruce fan, I'm not one for gigs in huge stadiums, and the weather forecast was horrendous.  The tickets were a gift to Mr B who's a fan and I got dragged along. Long story short: I didn't want to go; I moaned about it a lot; I had an amazing time and absolutely loved [...]