Ok, I might be about to put myself out of business here. After all, a lot of my coaching is about working with people to help them shift, change and improve. But the idea of acceptance is one that has become increasingly important to me and, as it’s been cropping up in my coaching space too, I thought I’d share more. I’m passionate about transformation and growth, finding ways to release the stuff that holds us back. But I [...]
I came across some interesting research recently (even though it's pretty old). In a 1998 study, 128 children aged 10-11 were given maths problems to solve. After the first set of questions, some children were told “You did really well - you’re so clever”, the rest were told “You did really well - you must have tried really hard.” They were then given more difficult maths problems. Those who had been praised for their efforts solved more problems and worried less about [...]
Ok, one final blog on perfectionism from me (for now - it's a topic that keeps on giving!). In case you missed it, I'm in the midst of a 4 part blog series all about perfectionism, what it means and why it could be getting in your way - and what to do about it. You can catch up here: #1: Am I a Perfectionist? #2: Is Perfectionism a Problem? #3: How To Overcome Perfectionism So you should now [...]
So we’ve dug deep as to why perfectionism might actually be getting in your way (missed it? Check out the 2 previous blogs here and here). That instead of helping you to reach new heights, and deliver excellence in all you do, perfectionism is only making it far more difficult – and oh so stressful. So how to overcome procrastination? How to move towards a more balanced approach, where you have confidence, vision and purpose? Where you’re on your [...]
Some of the problems your perfectionism might be causing I’m often asked “is perfectionism is problem?”. My answer is yes, but it can be a hard sell sometimes to my perfectionist clients. Many associate perfectionism with high standards, achieving new heights, exceptionalism, ambition, success…The list goes on with many things we value highly in our society. (BTW if you wondering if you are a perfectionist, check out my first blog in this series here.) But the impact of [...]
Some signs that you might be a perfectionist - and why it's getting in your way Am I a perfectionist? Me? No. I'm not good enough...I don't work hard enough...I'm not organised enough to be a perfectionist (hint - these phrases themselves suggest there's at least some perfectionism!)There's quite a lot of misunderstanding about what perfectionism is, and how it shows up. And even whether it's a bad thing or not. It's not a great term - we [...]
Overcoming all-or-nothing, black and white thinking, or dichotomous thinking (they're all the same thing!) All-or-nothing thinking is a common theme in my coaching - I'll never be able to do this, if this doesn't work it's a failure, if I don't do x, it will have to be y... We all do it and it's not that big a deal occasionally, But when this becomes a consistent pattern, or mindset, it can really make things tough. What is all-or-nothing thinking?All-or-nothing [...]
