Are you working beyond capacity?

Right now. I'm coaching many people who are struggling to make energetic ends meet.  They're overworked, under rested, on a hamster wheel of stress and never catching up.  And this is at home as well as work.   They're working beyond capacity and burnout looms.There's a lot of under-resourced organisations out there, meaning over-stretched people.  And entrepreneurs are trying to keep their businesses afloat in tricky times, attempting to do everything themselves.  Plus the demands of home and kids keep [...]

Know Your Value: It doesn’t have to be blood, sweat and tears

An old favourite topic return to my coaching space this week - challenging the notion that slog and graft is the way we prove our worth and value.So many of us seem to feel the need to show that we're working, that we're delivering, that we're earning our keep is by providing blood, sweat and tears. Many of us - indeed our society - seems very tied to the idea that we have to PROVE our value with effort, [...]

Gratitude & Self Esteem: Using gratitude to feel better about yourself

One of the many benefits shown from practicing regular gratitude is feeling better about other people, and having stronger connections.  So how about using a similar technique to start feeling better about yourself? Here's how gratitude can boost your self esteem. (Last week’s blog's was all about how much a regular gratitude practice might help - and how to make a start.  Check it out if you missed it or need a refresher.) Biggest obstacle I see that’s [...]

How to Harness Gratitude

I’m guessing you’ve probably heard the word “gratitude” floating around, particularly in the world of wellbeing and self care.  But how much are you using it, and how useful do you think it can be? I know for many it can feel like a superficial spread.  Feeling sad, stressed, overwhelmed? No, you're not allowed to feel any of that - instead you've got to appreciate what you’ve got!  Yeah, I get where many people say “gratitude” through gritted teeth. [...]

Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs

So how are you doing with getting to know your inner child?  What ages are they when they show up?  And perhaps most importantly, how are you getting on with understanding them, and being kind and compassionate to them? I hope last week's blog gave you a few pointers on how to tune into them, how they might be impacting you, and how to start to build a relationship with them.  And also helped shine a light on why [...]

2023-01-19T20:03:28+00:0019 January 2023|Categories: Introvert, Self Care, Self help|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Learning to be the parent your inner child’s needs

Is your inner child running the show?

Guess what?  You’re filled with little people.  And a lot of the time, they’re running the show. No, I haven’t lost the plot (honest).  Hear me out…. When we experience traumas which don’t get resolved, particularly in our early years, then our younger selves get stuck in the cycling of that experience.  They remain inside of us, and show up whenever something similar arises.  They take over our behaviours and reactions, trying to keep us safe (but their toolkit [...]

Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

I'm Emma, and I'm a committed introvert. I 🧡 time on my own and I can easily get lost in a solo world.  And much as I love being with people (and I really do - hence my job), I can find big, busy gatherings tiring, if not overwhelming and run out of steam if I'm with too many people for too long. And I know I'm not the only one.  Most of my clients are introverts too and [...]

2022-12-16T14:46:40+00:0016 December 2022|Categories: Introvert, Self Care, Self help|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Successful socialising as an introvert (and getting through Christmas)

How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

One of my tips from last week’s Winter-Blues-Beating toolkit was to “feed the fire with strong, meaningful connections”.   And I stand by this.  We are pack animals, and we need other people.  The health impacts of loneliness are well documented, not to mention the profound emotional impact.  Being part of a tribe, being seen and belonging are vital to the internal fire that gives us warmth, energy, love, joy, connection, purpose and support. But I also [...]

2022-12-08T11:25:31+00:006 December 2022|Categories: Self help|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on How to find connection when you prefer to be on your own

How to Beat the Winter Blues

Winter’s back – and so it’s time to return to my series of seasonal blogs and look at how to beat the winter blues.  Each time I revisit these blogs, I gain a more nuanced understanding, and my toolkit for flourishing improves.  And so, I hope you don’t mind the occasional repetition and that you too can embrace sitting with the familiar to gain a deeper resonance.  And that, my friends, is really key to this time of year.  [...]

Why am I so angry? The answer might not be what you think

Lots of people are asking "why am I so angry?" right now.  They're struggling with the emotion - how it makes them feel and the impact on others.  I'm also aware that I spoke of "harnessing anger" for good in last week's blog, and some of you are wondering how to do that.  And so I thought this was worth a bit more exploration. Anger in Chinese Medicine In Chinese Medicine, anger is the emotion of [...]