It was Random Acts of Kindness Day on Monday (17 Feb). I'm not a fan of these arbitrary days but there's definitely something in the idea of kindness. The world feels very tribal right now. Many people are full of fear, feeling defensive and separate from those around them. It feels like we've lost a a shared sense of community, even humanity. I really believe that the antidote to this is kindness and connection. And the added bonus is that the [...]
In traditional life coaching, there is a great emphasis on self-improvement, sometimes it seems at any cost. And I truly believe that we are at our best when we develop, learn and grow, at all ages. But recently I've been having conversations about finding balance in the quest for change. Because if the root of that desire for improvement is self-hatred, or a need to annihilate huge parts of who we are, then that doesn't feel like improvement at all. [...]
I've had a heavy week of copywriting this week - it sometimes works out that way. Along with my holistic life coaching, I provide business coaching for solepreneurs, helping - amongst other things - these talented people to tune into their uniqueness as the basis for all of their marketing positioning. I also do some “do-it-for-you” services for these same people, writing new websites and creating social media strategies (even building the odd website here and there!). As part of [...]
Do you find socialising as an introvert tough? Are you missing out on opportunities in work, romance, friendships and life because of this? Do you punish yourself because you're the other one that can't to this? Then you might need my Introverts' Social Survival Guide for Christmas (and Beyond)! This time of year can be tricky for us introverts. Work dos, big social gatherings, packed houses and long family stayovers – it can be tiring, overwhelming and easy to [...]
I'm a big advocate of creating environments that support and align with our goals. I passionately believe in using the non-conscious parts of our body and brain to help us stretch for those things we want to achieve as well as our plans and intentions. And shaping the environment around us can make a huge difference. I'll share a few things we've been talking about this week, in how to shape a work environment that's conducive to your goals: [...]
So many people are being so hard on themselves right now. In fact I'd go so far to say it's as if they're at war with themselves, or at the very least getting in their own way. Self-acceptance is tough.So I'm talking about more ways to work with, rather than against, ourselves Looking at how to become our own support system and cheerleaderAnd imagining just what might be possible if we can be on our own side, and supporting ourselves [...]
It regularly makes me sad and mad in my coaching space when I see such impressive people struggling to see the gifts and value they bring. And wow it's so wonderful when those same people benefit from building their self esteem, moving from being their own biggest enemy to their own support system, even their own cheerleader . A key tool in building self esteem is tapping into a different perspective. Seeing something from another angle and outside of [...]
Dialling down the negative self-talk so self esteem can flourish One of the most common themes from my coaching space is self-compassion (or at least the lack of it). Many of my clients are high achievers who have been using punishment, stress and self-annihilation to motivate themselves (but uh-oh, it’s not working anymore).The negative self-talk is constant, with a cruel inner critical, always telling themselves they’re useless, lazy, stupid, less than, not good enough…(the list goes on…). And they sprinkle [...]
This week, I've been reminding a few people about the benefits of journalling. I'm a huge fan of journalling and recommend it to all my clients. It's a fabulous support tool for our work together. In fact, I'd say it can help anyone out there - so read on... (p.s. if you want to give journalling a go but don't know where to start, I've got a great guide - just email me and I'll send you a copy) [...]
Prefer to listen rather than read? You can hear an AI-generated voiceover of this blog here: It's amazing the stories we tell ourselves. The constant narratives we have about who we are, what we can and can't do, even what has happened to us and what that now means. Our brains love a good story, and our nervous systems love familiarity and hence these narratives get bedded in. But what if they're not [...]
