self acceptance

Radical Honesty: The Truth About Telling the Truth

Ok, so last time we were looking at radical self-honesty.  The power of being really honest with ourselves – and even being really honest with others about ourself.  Looking deep within and acknowledging, even sharing, those shady parts - releasing shame, learning acceptance and flourishing. But what do you think about radical honesty with others, at all times? Welcome to the world of Radical Honesty. So what is radical honesty? Radical honesty is just what it sounds [...]

2025-10-02T15:33:50+00:002 October 2025|Categories: Perfectionism|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Radical Honesty: The Truth About Telling the Truth

Radical Self-Honesty: The Courage to Tell Yourself the Truth

Ok, let’s be honest. We lie to ourselves constantly…      “I don’t care what they think” (when you care loads)      “The job’s ok (it’s draining the life out of you)      “It’ll be different next week” (but it wasn’t this week – or the week before that..) Self-lies are a comfort blanket – they help us to feel safe.  And they’re sneaky – they’re “easy”, they’re non-controversial, they can slip under the radar because they [...]

2025-09-19T14:00:39+00:0019 September 2025|Categories: Perfectionism|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |Comments Off on Radical Self-Honesty: The Courage to Tell Yourself the Truth

The Art of (Self) Acceptance

Ok, I might be about to put myself out of business here. After all, a lot of my coaching is about working with people to help them shift, change and improve. But the idea of acceptance is one that has become increasingly important to me and, as it’s been cropping up in my coaching space too, I thought I’d share more. I’m passionate about transformation and growth, finding ways to release the stuff that holds us back. But I [...]

How to praise yourself and others

I came across some interesting research recently (even though it's pretty old). In a 1998 study, 128 children aged 10-11 were given maths problems to solve.  After the first set of questions, some children were told “You did really well - you’re so clever”, the rest were told “You did really well - you must have tried really hard.” They were then given more difficult maths problems. Those who had been praised for their efforts solved more problems and worried less about [...]

The Introverts’ Social Survival Guide – for Christmas and Beyond

Do you find socialising as an introvert tough?  Are you missing out on opportunities in work, romance, friendships and life because of this? Do you punish yourself because you're the other one that can't to this?  Then you might need my Introverts' Social Survival Guide for Christmas (and Beyond)! This time of year can be tricky for us introverts.  Work dos, big social gatherings, packed houses and long family stayovers – it can be tiring, overwhelming and easy to [...]

How to Beat the Winter Blues

Winter’s back – and so it’s time to return to my series of seasonal blogs and look at how to beat the winter blues.  Each time I revisit these blogs, I gain a more nuanced understanding, and my toolkit for flourishing improves.  And so, I hope you don’t mind the occasional repetition and that you too can embrace sitting with the familiar to gain a deeper resonance.  And that, my friends, is really key to this time of year.  [...]

Detox Your Life with the Magic of Autumn

So the Autumn Equinox fell in the early hours of this morning (September 23 2022).  In the Chinese Solar Terms, this actually marks the half way point of autumn so we’re well into the season.  But outside the window, what we think of as autumn is only just starting (oh and yes a little inside too with the annual spider invasion - check out one of my fave cartoons about this). I know a lot of [...]

Beat the Winter Blues – Making Winter Work for You

Well, we’re back here again. Winter, the season of ultimate yin – cold, dark, hidden, internal - and for many a time of dread.  But this season is so important.  So how can we make winter work for us, and beat the winter blues? I used to hate winter and couldn’t wait for the longer, warmer days.  I would be sluggish, dull, craving sunlight, and battling it every step of the way. My relationship with the seasons transformed when [...]